I know I'm late telling you guys about this, but I'm guest posting today over at one of my favorite blogs, Stuff Christians Like.
SCL was the first blog I ever read. My hubby heard about it on a talk radio station and we began reading it daily -- and cracking up. It very quickly made its way into our dinner table conversations and we were soon telling our friends about it. (Chuck frequently comments on that blog under the name Hucklebuck.) SCL introduced me to the world of blogging and it inspired me to start writing my own blog, which has been a tremendous blessing in so many ways.
Over the past year I've made some great friends through that blog and this one. I'd be delighted if you'd go on over and check it out. If you want to explore everything that blog has to offer, be prepared for a witty, usually sarcastic, always thought-provoking, and occasionally convicting look at the Christian subculture in America.
If you're visiting my blog from SCL today, thanks for stopping by!
Our Journey
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About Me
- Stacey
- I’m 38 years old and I’ve been happily married to my husband (known on this blog as "Chuck") since 1998. I was born and raised in my dear home state of Louisiana and have lived in Texas since 2001, the year we started trying to have a baby. This blog is about what my life has been like living with infertility and recurrent pregnancy loss for nearly a decade. My faith has played a big part in helping me get through six first-trimester miscarriages. Our seventh pregnancy finally brought us our miracle girl in September 2010. Our second precious gift, another daughter, arrived in November 2012.
23 comments:
Hey Stacey, great post today on SCL! Tell Huck 'hi.'
I thought we were the only ones who had those kinds of things happen to us. I am very sorry.
Hi.
I'm so glad I came across your blog. I had my fourth miscarriage about 6 weeks ago. And even though we have not had any trouble falling pregnant, and have even been fortunate enough to have had a son (pregnancy number 2), the pain and uncertainty of recurrent miscarriage is immense.
It is so incredibly hard sitting and watching all your friends have their second, third and fourth babies without any trouble, I can only begin to imagine how you must feel without having even your first.
I tell very few people when I am pregnant, because 'untelling' people is too hard, and I reall don't like listening to the 'helpful' comments about 'being thankful you already have one' and 'you'll have another one someday' and 'this one wasn't meant to be'.
I'd like to keep reading your blog, and to pray for you and your husband that God would give you a child soon.
I do love the post Stacey! Very, very true. Congrats on being the guest post. :)
I didn't score all that high. Some of the things have happened, but over all, most folks we know are either very sensitive to us, or they just don't know how to talk about it.
We attend a small church that is mostly retired age folks, so we don't hit that kid issue so much. But i do work VBS every year.
Great post on SCL, Stacey...thanks!
I loved the post Stacey! Very well done!
(((hugs)))
Stacey, I don't know you, but I think I love you. I was nodding my head so hard while reading your post that I think my husband thought I was having a seizure. SO TRUE! And I think I got a perfect score. Is there a prize for that? :)
I'm sorry you are struggling with this stuff. I've had five miscarriages and also unexplained infertility. It is no fun at all.
Thanks for all the support, guys! I appreciate the comments.
Hi Stacey, thanks for the guest post at SCL & for this blog -- it was so good to see an honest conversation about a hard topic over on SCL, and your willingness to be open with your journey here is a blessing to all of us who have ever dealt with the loss of children and/or infertility. Since so many people, especially the women experiencing the pain of miscarriage, don't talk about it, it is refreshing to hear your voice so publicly. I'm sorry you have had this hard road; thank you for using it to bless others. Peace to you!
I too am visiting from SCL (which I love but have never commented there).
I thought your guestpost was fantastic. Heartbreakingly funny is the only way to describe it. I think you were brave to put all of that out there and handled the few dissenting comments with grace.
I never cease to be both saddened and angered when I hear of loving couples like yourselves who continue to struggle to bring a child safely in the world. I think that might be the one issue I dare to take up with God face to face one day. :)
It probably gets tiresome to hear other people's stories since all of our stories are unique. It is probably even more tiresome when the person sharing their story now has living children... But anyway, we too battled infertility to have our children and lost two precious little ones along the way. We do have three living children, but we have twins, a son and daughter, waiting for us in heaven. They came and left this world over five years ago now, but I miss them and think of them every single day.
You are in my prayers.
Very cute! It's amazing how many of those happen so often and people who do them don't even realize.
~~HUGS~~
@Lori,
Thanks for coming over from SCL and for your comment. In fact, I never get tired of hearing stories like yours. Even though it doesn't mean that I will ever have children, stories about others who have overcome infertility do give me hope! I've always felt that even if I do get to the "other side" of this, it will have left its mark. It has changed who I am and how I look at things, for sure. I suspect you may feel the same way. I appreciate having a glimpse of your story!
Queen Stuss, Kristen, & Lori, thanks for sharing the memories of your babies here also. I'm truly sorry for each one of those losses.
Hugs & prayers to you and to all the others facing infertility.
I scored very well thank you......but I think I get extra points because a nice old lady at church asked me if I was pregnant while looking at my mid section......nope I'm just chunky!
For those of you who saw my comments on SCL. Protective big sister mode kicked in and I forgot about showing God's grace to those who commented ignorantly and insensitively. I pray that those comments were not stumbling blocks for anyone. I need to remember that Stacey is a big girl and as shown can handle herself quite well. You guys are awesome. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your unwavering love and support that you have shown to my darling sister. I think it's pretty cool that you get to know how special she is too!
Great job Stacey! Thanks for re-introducing me to SCL - I use to read it everyday, but got of the habit over the last couple months. I was also very encouraged by so many of the comments, especially from those who had never walked this road, but sought to be compassionate.
@Connie, you responded exactly as I wanted to. I have to confess my reaction to what you had to say was, "I love Connie." The comment from one person in particular was way out of line. It served no purpose other than to be hurtful. But you are right, we must respond with grace.
Thanks, Becky! :)
I agree, Becky. It takes a special person to say they totally can't relate but genuinely care and want to know how they can help. I treasure the people like that in my life!
Thanks for passing the blog along- I got a chuckle out of many of the posts & found the lighthearted views with the point values refreshing :) I'm not sure how high my actual score is but I think it's up there.
I read the SCL site my Hubby loves it and I was so glad to see that we are not the only couple dealing with those issues. The pain of infertility is enough to make anyone crazy but the stupid things said "in love" will make you want to throw down. I feel like I have three options: 1. To deal with those pitiful looks you get. 2 To tell everyone to mind their own and be labeled "rude" 3. State that their kids are the reason we are abstaining from having kids.
I LOVE your post!!!! You are an amazing women, very inspirational. I am glad I found your blog!
Awesome guest post Stacey! Just wanted to let you know I left you an award on my blog!
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