tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post5143602199582921400..comments2023-09-18T08:28:35.345-05:00Comments on A Longing Fulfilled: Another Year Over And A New One Just BegunStaceyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04939987028726182741noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-17377616662861561082010-01-07T19:58:35.177-06:002010-01-07T19:58:35.177-06:00Hi Stacey,
I've been following your blog for a...Hi Stacey,<br />I've been following your blog for a while now. I stumbled upon it somehow in my own frustration with infertility and recurring miscarriage. I just bought a book that I'm curious to know if you have read. It's called "Is Your Body Baby Friendly" by Alan E. Beer. It talks about immune issues related to unexplained infertility, recurring m/c, IVF failure, implantation failure, etc. It seems really interesting so far. I have endometriosis and MTHFR mutation also, and there seems to be some correlation btwn those and immune related infertility, from what I'm reading.<br /><br />I hate recommending a book I haven't read completely. But fertility treatments are ridiculously expensive and emotionally taxing, and even if they are successful, our own bodies may be preventing the baby from continuing to grow and thrive. I'd hate to spend a lot of money and emotional investment without taking care of all the underlying issues first. My husband and I have already tried IUI's and fertility drugs, and we are still childless after 7 years. We have thought about IVF, but I can't shake the thought that even if it works, I'll still miscarry. I don't mean to be a downer. Actually, I'm hoping for the opposite. This book has given me some hope that there might be help out there. Have you read it? I'm curious to know your thoughts on that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-67937808368301110792010-01-06T22:09:12.675-06:002010-01-06T22:09:12.675-06:00I'd be upset too. I'm sorry it didn't...I'd be upset too. I'm sorry it didn't work out this month. :-( <br /><br />It's amazing how you can go from the worst year of your life to the best. It seems like it won't ever happen, and then suddenly it has. That's how 2008 to 2009 was for me. I hope 2010 will be the best for you!Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07697202003716416028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-82650285739642451032010-01-06T20:24:05.918-06:002010-01-06T20:24:05.918-06:00What happened this afternoon is no accident. God i...What happened this afternoon is no accident. God is looking out for you, Stace. XOXOConniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10197041154707092570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-47772683537642122982010-01-06T13:58:31.107-06:002010-01-06T13:58:31.107-06:00(((HUGS))) January is a hard month for me too. L...(((HUGS))) January is a hard month for me too. Last year we were glad to celebrate the end of 2008 and this year we're looking forward to 2010 but January has so many reminders of Levi... it's a struggle.Rhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04286068404893748428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-81761168411430292862010-01-06T11:36:58.106-06:002010-01-06T11:36:58.106-06:00Hi Stacey Just wanted to let you know that I'm...Hi Stacey Just wanted to let you know that I'm praying for you and I'm still hoping that this cycle will be a success. Dispite all thats happened!<br /><br />You are loved :)Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14426848699869302758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-62775450916811414332010-01-06T10:35:29.124-06:002010-01-06T10:35:29.124-06:00Thank you, friends, for all of the comments! It fe...Thank you, friends, for all of the comments! It feels good to have my anger about this validated. I'm doing better and have decided to move forward.<br /><br />@Anon, thank you so much for making contact and sharing some of your own story. I am so sorry about what you're going through and I'm saddened that you haven't gotten much support from your church. I admire your ministry and am sure that you are a huge blessing to the youth! <br />Please feel free to email me any time if you want or need to talk. staceysthoughts@gmail.comStaceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04939987028726182741noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-83086559717107278312010-01-06T09:30:55.949-06:002010-01-06T09:30:55.949-06:00So sorry for the disappointment. It does seem odd ...So sorry for the disappointment. It does seem odd to me that they'd give you the trigger shot if they weren't sure they could do the IUI. My insurance doesn't pay for any infertility treatments, so when I got my IUI, we pain cash for the trigger shot, which wasn't cheap. I would have been really mad to do all that then find out they couldn't do it. <br /><br />I do hope your 2010 starts to improve.Aubreyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07821592360402715054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-450525674603601662010-01-05T14:41:39.907-06:002010-01-05T14:41:39.907-06:00Stacey,
I just read your article "Surviving ...Stacey, <br />I just read your article "Surviving Church as a Married Couple Without Kids" which lead me to your blog. I didn't think it was going to be so hard, especially at church. I am 34 yrs. old and my husband and I have been married for 9 yrs. We are heavily involved in youth ministry at our church. My husband is a youth pastor and besides helping him with that, I also am a homemaker without kids. I'm afraid I have already given up trying to have kids. I couldn't bear the disappointment month after month. I think it was even harder on my husband. So, we have tried to put the idea out of our minds, however, we are constantly reminded, especially at church, that we are not parents. We don't even have adult friends at church. May I share a story? A while back, the young families planned an event at church. I thought to myself, well we are a young family even if we don't have any kids. So, the day of the event, I began to prepare food to bring with us to the event. My husband said, "This event is not for us. It' for people with kids". Well, I didn't really pay attention to that. Just before, the event began, I decided to read the bulletin to be sure about the details. To my horror, it read, "For families with young children". We stayed home that day, but had dinner that would last us a few days.<br />I know disappointment is a part of life after The Fall, but sometimes it's so much so that I long for heaven sooner than later. Now, I just try to focus on the teenagers and love on them as much as I can. I also believe that if we are not supposed to have our own children, God has a darn good reason for it. Jesus is the only one keeping me sane right now.<br />Thanks for sharing your struggles, Stacey.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-79095111526905319782010-01-05T13:22:47.354-06:002010-01-05T13:22:47.354-06:00Oh, Stace, I can COMPLETELY understand that loss o...Oh, Stace, I can COMPLETELY understand that loss of cycling in January. It seems like the RE's offices just think oh well but holy moly - that'a MONTH wasted. A devastating 30-31 days that you could have been doing something. I feel those feelings rising within me as I type for I have been there. I hope that this year brings us motherhood - heck, we've done everything else at exactly the same timing! ;)Sunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10742596711602267830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-73327576215923500852010-01-05T13:20:10.233-06:002010-01-05T13:20:10.233-06:00Ugh. Ugh. I'm so mad at your clinic right now....Ugh. Ugh. I'm so mad at your clinic right now. <br /><br />Continuing to pray for you sweetie.<br /><br />xoxo<br /><br />HUGSI Believe in Miracleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07062124038472752680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-31776245798803994862010-01-05T11:44:26.696-06:002010-01-05T11:44:26.696-06:00Oh gosh, I'm so sorry about the IUI getting ca...Oh gosh, I'm so sorry about the IUI getting cancelled!! That totally stinks, and you are right in that it's a holiday or anything!! I'm so sorry (hug). At least you had some great follies though!! (As I try to be encouraging in the face of huge disappointment!!) You still tried on your own, right? Praying God has your little one coming soon :)Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08034231451458994325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-2635156123086779982010-01-05T10:54:32.748-06:002010-01-05T10:54:32.748-06:00Your feelings of anger are warranted! You plan, y...Your feelings of anger are warranted! You plan, you prepare and your world revolves around timing and then suddenly no one has time on their watch for you! How incredibly disappointing!<br /><br />If it's not YOUR issue its easier to navigate past, but when you've faced all that you have faced over the course of the past years the start of a new cycle can seem like eternity. And, the tought of having 12 tries always enters one's mind....<br /><br />So sorry this happened to you. Is there a possibility that you could use 2 clinics? I've read about others who use 2 clinics and alternate between the 2 to get available appointments for IUI...just a thought. I so hate this happened to you, as you don't deserve this.<br /><br />Many HugsAndreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06709001842788289402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-80169267801355186082010-01-05T09:44:10.230-06:002010-01-05T09:44:10.230-06:00Oh, my. Failing to do your IUI was really unprofe...Oh, my. Failing to do your IUI was really unprofessional on the clinic's part. I'm sorry. I hope the cycle is a success anyway!<br />-andreajennineAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-52735733405539785012010-01-05T08:43:44.377-06:002010-01-05T08:43:44.377-06:00HUGSHUGS~ Katie ~https://www.blogger.com/profile/06390678402966432934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-2467016875820064042010-01-05T06:42:48.683-06:002010-01-05T06:42:48.683-06:00Wow. I'd be so furious. They definitely should...Wow. I'd be so furious. They definitely should've been able to know ahead of time. I feel so upset and angry for you and I can't imagine how you're feeling sweetie. I hope you didn't have to pay for the monitoring and trigger.<br /><br />I wish I was there to give you the biggest hug sweetie. I'm so sorry. (((HUGS)))twondrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13833003369303408718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-27531335536810910952010-01-05T01:47:43.624-06:002010-01-05T01:47:43.624-06:00Sending you hugs. I'm sorry for your disappoi...Sending you hugs. I'm sorry for your disappointment & understand your anger. I agree with the other posts that they should have known this before making you drive back.<br /><br />Praying that 2010 will be blessed for you both.Kathrynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03272307621143522274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-89154451206416779282010-01-05T00:25:19.569-06:002010-01-05T00:25:19.569-06:00Stacey, I totally get why you're angry, I'...Stacey, I totally get why you're angry, I'd be furious too. Surely they should have checked their scheduling before having you drive all he way in for a scan AND administering a trigger shot??? That is outrageous, I'd be furious too. And I totally get the impatience over having to wait another month, when one thinks about how time is marching on for all of us and that one only has 12 attempts in a year to get pregnant, well they've just royally wasted your time.<br /><br />I'm really really really praying that this is going to be your year. God is all powerful, He can and DOES move mountains, I am living proof of that. Have faith Sister! Good things ARE coming your way! We have to believe it.<br />Lots of Love!Sharonhttp://www.mindfulmeandering.co.zanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-5417016462314550432010-01-04T22:08:02.263-06:002010-01-04T22:08:02.263-06:00I can't imagine how disappointed you are with ...I can't imagine how disappointed you are with not being able to try the IUI this month. It might seem like no biggie to someone who hasn't been through so much, but you have and I'm so sad that was the case this month!<br /><br />I'm from Louisiana too, so is my hubby, being home was bittersweet for me. These holidays were certainly hard, and though I'm trying to be hope-filled this new year, I'm with you in sometimes wondering what's to say this one will be any better. I pray we both see that something wonderful come to fruition this year, but know that your feelings are understood for sure!Denihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16241957159520703116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-64407955339070241752010-01-04T20:20:29.213-06:002010-01-04T20:20:29.213-06:00I think you are handling this setback way better t...I think you are handling this setback way better than I would have handled it. Especially after all of that driving and time sacrificed. I think that they should not charge for all of the sevices related to this service or the next. Is that too much or too aggressive?<br />Wow, I am so sorry. I hope I am not adding fuel to the flame. <br />I survived fine through Christmas, too, but the New Year has really set me back. I am still trying to recover from starting a new year at what seems the same place, aprroaching my 33rd b-day on Feb. 1st, and our approaching 10th anniversary in July. Really! Give us a break already.<br />I will pray that may yall could do it on yall's own! Prayer is a powerful way to make our dreams come true, or so they say :)Life In Mazeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13801595374105494781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-36837083222928279032010-01-04T19:41:29.033-06:002010-01-04T19:41:29.033-06:00oh Stace! that makes me so mad. what's their...oh Stace! that makes me so mad. what's their number? i'll give them a call and set them straight. praying that february will be an great month....love you!gghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16338173191496875283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-43440287746591445022010-01-04T18:54:01.359-06:002010-01-04T18:54:01.359-06:00@Mrs. Spit - I definitely see your point. I guess ...@Mrs. Spit - I definitely see your point. I guess the difference here is that my hubby and I have gotten pg on our own multiple times. We've just started going through the cycling process with the clinic to guarantee ovulation because my cycles had gotten all messed up. The IUIs are just to give our chances an extra boost, but it is still very disappointing for it to not happen. We haven't had a pregnancy in 3 years on our own.<br /><br />Thanks for the comment. I agree that they might've told me that up front if they knew no one would be there over the weekend!Staceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04939987028726182741noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-31981958706623397102010-01-04T18:50:53.334-06:002010-01-04T18:50:53.334-06:00Ugh!!! And, I'm no professional, but I agree ...Ugh!!! And, I'm no professional, but I agree with Mrs. Spit. Sorry, Stace. I can't begin to imagine how frustrating that must be.Andihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11755781689608515554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-15717529674635199812010-01-04T18:27:39.129-06:002010-01-04T18:27:39.129-06:00From a professional point of view, should the clin...From a professional point of view, should the clinic be having you do all the stuff associated with cycling, if they aren't able to perform the procedure? They have a pretty good idea of when you will need the IUI done. <br /><br />And I'm sorry, that's a bit of a punch to the gut. . .Mrs. Spithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03386820063407910064noreply@blogger.com