tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post4093918837115546902..comments2023-09-18T08:28:35.345-05:00Comments on A Longing Fulfilled: Happy EndingsStaceyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04939987028726182741noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-17825270986479863942009-09-05T23:51:28.751-05:002009-09-05T23:51:28.751-05:00Through 6 years of unexplained secondary infertili...Through 6 years of unexplained secondary infertility my faith grew exponentially. When 2 miscarriages happened in the span of 18 months, I thought my faith would be shattered! I did not like the time at all, but it was what God intended for whatever reason. It was a time of intense wrestling with God and crying out to Him for answers that were slow to come. I must say that I finally did get to the point where I believed no happy ending would come for me. However, on March 23, 2009 my happy ending was born. I conceived naturally with no aide of any infertility drugs. I strongly felt God's leading in that direction after trying Clomid and Femara on 2 separate occasions. Never give up on the happy ending. And never give up your faith in the only One who can change your story in a moment's notice. "His compassions are NEW EVERY MORNING! Great is HIS Faithfulness!" I would often wake up and wonder if my new morning would ever come. It FINALLY did! I pray yours will as well. I will be praying.waitinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05255889257142667745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-43137507058303842872009-08-26T11:05:58.365-05:002009-08-26T11:05:58.365-05:00I was thinking of you and hoping you were having a...I was thinking of you and hoping you were having a good week! (((HUGS)))Sunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10742596711602267830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-5987462679042974082009-08-24T15:48:10.924-05:002009-08-24T15:48:10.924-05:00I wonder too how I will handle it if the times com...I wonder too how I will handle it if the times comes when we can't try anymore, when it's time to accept a child-free life. I just keep praying that if it's not in His plan that He will change my heart so my longing is not for children anymore. It's hard to accept right now, though.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-41709801121619146182009-08-21T14:39:15.873-05:002009-08-21T14:39:15.873-05:00I strongly suspect I know what book you're tal...I strongly suspect I know what book you're talking about... but I'll keep it to myself.<br /><br />Anyhow, I agree with you on this one - a happy ending is rarely satisfying simply for the happy part. I need a natural ending more than I need an "up" ending.MrsHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03434250729888682624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-11069997118979458442009-08-20T11:22:33.643-05:002009-08-20T11:22:33.643-05:00I like a happy ending, but I also like to believe ...I like a happy ending, but I also like to believe that happy endings often involve a lot of pain. I'd much rather a movie or a book leave the ending to me. <br /><br />Give me hope. That's all the ending I need.Billy Coffeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08988347213957444145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-53079893424298219432009-08-19T13:12:17.731-05:002009-08-19T13:12:17.731-05:00Stacey, I had thought long and hard about this ver...Stacey, I had thought long and hard about this very subject not too too long before my current opportunity presented itself. I thought, "God, how will I move on if you don't give me my heart's desire?" He just kept saying to trust Him. I finally came to the place that I thought about God's sovereign plan for my life. That plan that he made for me before I was formed (Ps 139). I thought how to truly trust Him, I had to trust His plan for my life and where that might lead me. It doesn't mean that it would be easy, but I could guarantee in my attitude and trust in Him that I would be happy - simply because I was living in His will. Happy doesn't always equal getting what we want and when we want it or the way we want it, but happy is knowing Who we belong to and that He is trustworthy and knows us by name. Without this, I couldn't imagine a happy ending, you know?<br /><br />p.s. saw that you have another Sunny here! kewl!Sunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10742596711602267830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-90765994042450096172009-08-19T13:01:20.464-05:002009-08-19T13:01:20.464-05:00I'm with you on the whole happy ending in stor...I'm with you on the whole happy ending in stories part. It's always a little frustrating when things unnecessarily wrap themselves up at the very end. When the story could actually be MORE inspiring if it didn't have the traditional happy ending. I also felt that way about the movie Baby Mama, it was just a silly movie, but the ending made me dislike the story. I don't think that I feel this way because of my life's circumstances though. I think I've always been this way. I'm realistic and I also appreciate "different" situations and different ways to tell stories. It's funny that realistic endings are so common in real life, but so uncommon in stories.Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02912329811754448989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-85178259754634225462009-08-19T12:56:51.843-05:002009-08-19T12:56:51.843-05:00Oh my goodness, I just had the exact same experien...Oh my goodness, I just had the exact same experience with a book! Wonder if it was the same one? Email me with the title (I would have posted it here, but I saw your comment about not wanting to spoil the end for others).<br />You know what I want? More testimonies that don't have textbook happy endings. Everybody loves to celebrate the miracle healing, etc. I want to hear more testimonies that celebrate the miracle of faith in the midst of unending trial.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-78552884799082644562009-08-19T11:11:22.753-05:002009-08-19T11:11:22.753-05:00I can totally relate with what Alicia said. I am ...I can totally relate with what Alicia said. I am not oppossed to happy endings, by no means, but I like the unexpected at times too. I like a good book or movie that, when you're finished reading or watching, just makes you sit there for a minute and think; makes you have to soak it all in. <br />And Chuck, wow! That has to be very strength-building to Stacey. What a GREAT couple y'all are!Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05045631253291559833noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-73002887061700083082009-08-19T06:55:00.240-05:002009-08-19T06:55:00.240-05:00I too am a realist. I don't look at it as pess...I too am a realist. I don't look at it as pessimism. One of my favorite movies is Atonement. And this story most definitely doesn't have a happy ending. It is dramatic but doesn't have the typical Hollywood ending. I like to believe that most things work out some way somehow. But the realism part is that tough times work out to the point where life changes and acceptance happens and hopefully an internal peace takes place. Even if the happy ending is finally having children I see all the challenges that go along with being a parent or a spouse. Life is difficult and the happy ending is finding a way to be happy with your life and yourself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-80536708438994769342009-08-19T05:56:14.420-05:002009-08-19T05:56:14.420-05:00Darn Chuck! Made me cry.Darn Chuck! Made me cry.Andihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11755781689608515554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-22548008820975933142009-08-19T05:47:47.662-05:002009-08-19T05:47:47.662-05:00I believe in Happily Ever After but NOT PERFECTLY ...I believe in Happily Ever After but NOT PERFECTLY ever after. I think I'm a living eg of that, I am living a happily ever after with my husband but its not perfect.<br />I'm like you Stacey, I don't believe in the perfect ever after and it annoys me when movies/stories try to force you into that it seems unrealistic. Whether that makes me an optimist or a pessimist I don't know, I prefer to think of myself as a realist, hoping for the best but anticipating all the outcomes.Shazhttp://www.mindfulmeandering.co.zanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-38646919167009495822009-08-18T22:07:31.479-05:002009-08-18T22:07:31.479-05:00Interesting post. I actually prefer a book or movi...Interesting post. I actually prefer a book or movie that doesn't tie up all the loose ends into a nice, neat bow. For example, the last book in the Twilight series made things way too easy for the main characters. Like you said, real life doesn't usually work that way, and I like more realistic books and movies. <br /><br />On the other hand, I also hate when a writer deliberately makes a book/movie as depressing as possible. Instead, it's nice to see the characters grow through a process, but have at least something good come out of it at the end. (Take, for example, the movie The Soloist - not a feel good story, but a satisfying one for me nonetheless.)Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16121974538893728586noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-84093679237097952782009-08-18T21:32:29.268-05:002009-08-18T21:32:29.268-05:00I can go either way! I think a happy ending is in ...I can go either way! I think a happy ending is in the eye of the beholder most of the time, in real life anyway.Joy@WDDCHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03709113785857792361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-74558692230406518422009-08-18T21:29:12.593-05:002009-08-18T21:29:12.593-05:00I really like happy endings to the point that if I...I really like happy endings to the point that if I don't get it in a movie or book, I stew. Mature, right? Just kidding. I had to get over it this summer when I read a book that had the worst ending, but it was exactly what the character wanted and then the movie turned out to be the opposite. Very strange, I know. Thanks for your recent prayers and support.Life In Mazeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13801595374105494781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-62514101026992746752009-08-18T20:42:36.035-05:002009-08-18T20:42:36.035-05:00My dreams also revolved around getting married and...My dreams also revolved around getting married and having a family. I never imagined infertility would crash in the way, but I just have to keep having faith that the Lord will take care of it, as long as we're doing our part.<br /><br />Love your blog, it's very inspirational. I'm very sorry you've struggled for so long. I thought 2 years was bad enough. You are very strong!LadyEmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14813443183644214782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-3577357185814066622009-08-18T20:22:22.880-05:002009-08-18T20:22:22.880-05:00Stacey, I found your blog by reading Stuff Christi...Stacey, I found your blog by reading Stuff Christians Like. I have to say Thank You - for sharing your heart, your pain, and hope to those who are going through the same issues. <br /><br />For me, there are days where I believe in the "Happy Ending" of having children (whether biological or adopted), and there are days where I wonder if that type of ending is a part of God's plan for my life. <br /><br />I believe the Happy Ending is what we decide to make of it, and hold onto the hope God has for us each day. Ps 25. <br /><br />I completely agree with what A said. <br /><br />Thanks again for the encouragement and support you bring to others.<br /><br />JessicaJourneymark Cards & Giftshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11755124454185795652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-77837748460691005722009-08-18T18:59:28.945-05:002009-08-18T18:59:28.945-05:00Ok I really enjoyed reading what Chuck had to say ...Ok I really enjoyed reading what Chuck had to say :)<br /><br />I don't need the happy endings because I'm more of a realist any way......this can be very annoying to happy ending people.....sorry. I'm not opposed to happy endings however. <br /><br />Great post very thought provoking.Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14426848699869302758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-56060827714816800172009-08-18T18:49:24.330-05:002009-08-18T18:49:24.330-05:00Well, dearest, you know how I feel about it. I MUS...Well, dearest, you know how I feel about it. I MUST have that happy ending....not sure why, but I need it...<br /><br />Chuck, I LOVE you. I sleep so much more soundly at night knowing that my sister has you and your love. Thank you for taking such good care of her and for your unwavering commitment to her. XOXOConniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10197041154707092570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-16712431330462924112009-08-18T17:51:39.320-05:002009-08-18T17:51:39.320-05:00Rebekah,
I definitely agree. Hope keeps me going!
...Rebekah,<br />I definitely agree. Hope keeps me going!<br /><br />I think that sometimes when dealing with fiction, I'm more satisfied being left to hope and imagine a happy future for the characters without having it handed directly to me in an epilogue. I find it hard when I haven't seen the progression.<br /><br />But yes, hope is a great thing!Staceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04939987028726182741noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-10162756058017683352009-08-18T17:42:22.399-05:002009-08-18T17:42:22.399-05:00We have to believe there's hope...without it, ...We have to believe there's hope...without it, we'd never survive.Rebekahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11920816691217676013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-21674795912571898852009-08-18T17:12:44.825-05:002009-08-18T17:12:44.825-05:00I crave happy endings. Almost like if I can read a...I crave happy endings. Almost like if I can read about them, hear about them, feel them, then maybe they really do exist and can happen to me too. I just have to constantly remind myself that my idea of a happy ending and God's idea might be different. A hard thing to remember sometimes. <br /><br />This post had really made me pause and think about my own expectations, something I've been struggling with all week. Sometimes you just know what to say to get the gears in my mind turning.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11977035373522579831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-84937363790243166482009-08-18T15:55:27.454-05:002009-08-18T15:55:27.454-05:00I am personally a fan of happy endings... but not ...I am personally a fan of happy endings... but not super cheesy, unreal-feeling ones. I don't think it has to be 100% happy, like the woman in the story you described. I certainly wouldn't need to know that she has children one day, to feel like it was a good ending. I think happiness can be achieved even when the intial goals aren't entirely met... sometimes they get adjusted, or abandoned altogether.<br /><br />If she were depressed, lonely, and living on the street as the novel closed... well, that would probably be a little too depressing for me. :) But I think there are shades of happy endings, and something real and relatively satisfying is usually good enough in my opinion!Sunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10964875388384777306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-33396354479769258532009-08-18T15:48:15.706-05:002009-08-18T15:48:15.706-05:00A, I hear you! Your P.S. is exactly what I mean. :...A, I hear you! Your P.S. is exactly what I mean. :)<br /><br />I won't mention the name of the book here because I don't like spoilers. But if you really want to know, send me an email.Staceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04939987028726182741noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-43905856999493778262009-08-18T15:42:49.642-05:002009-08-18T15:42:49.642-05:00(PS. It follows that I would consider an ending t...(PS. It follows that I would consider an ending to be happy even if the character didn't get what they initially wanted, but they made the most out of whatever situation that did present itself.)Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08034231451458994325noreply@blogger.com