tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post395646488548120109..comments2023-09-18T08:28:35.345-05:00Comments on A Longing Fulfilled: CommentsStaceyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04939987028726182741noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-68830579323089412252010-02-08T11:07:34.321-06:002010-02-08T11:07:34.321-06:00Hey Stace, thanks for always so honestly sharing y...Hey Stace, thanks for always so honestly sharing your thoughts. I truly believe that you have a great ministry here, mainly because of your openness. Not just to those that are going through the same or similar situations as you and Chuck (and that's the most important group you minister to), but also to those of us who admittedly find it harder to relate and sometimes don't know how to respond. Your blog helps me strive to learn how to respond appropriately and sensitively, and not just give up and let a friendship dwindle. <br /><br />Our best friends here are at about the same stage in pregnancy as you after losing their first two in the past year and a half. We anxiously await being able to rejoice with all four of you in about 7 months and will be praying for you throughout.Ro-bearnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-43307927060671972352010-02-07T12:52:20.175-06:002010-02-07T12:52:20.175-06:00I'm sorry you had to deal with the comments an...I'm sorry you had to deal with the comments and the feelings that ensued. Some people just don't understand unless (until) they've walked a mile in our shoes. <br /><br />I understand the struggling with faith, as you know from reading my blog, I'm quite new to actually feeling that I have faith to rely on. It doesn't make the worries or problems or struggles go away. But, I personally feel a little less alone knowing that God cares about me and what I'm going through no matter how insignificant it may seem to others, or how insignificant they want to make it seem. <br />Praying for you.Idgiehttp://alongandwindingroad.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-916082579913237032010-02-07T10:15:25.479-06:002010-02-07T10:15:25.479-06:00I just happened along your blog this morning and w...I just happened along your blog this morning and wanted to say how very sorry I am to read of your babies who went to Heaven ahead of you. Praying peace for your heart to delight in each day God blesses you to share with this newest miracle. {{{hugs}}}<br /><br />jenni saake<br />author, <a href="http://www.hannahshopebook.com" rel="nofollow">Hannah's Hope: Seeking God's Heart in the Midst of Infertility, Miscarriage and Adoption Loss</a> (NavPress)JenniferSaake.blogspot.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00187951307787002730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-80354698585471160952010-02-07T09:46:17.487-06:002010-02-07T09:46:17.487-06:00I hate people like that too. Well said!
You ha...I hate people like that too. Well said! <br /><br />You have an award on my blog!!!<br />xoxoxoxox<br />Love you~MichelleMichellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09844628649367494052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-26523010482745371812010-02-06T16:58:36.789-06:002010-02-06T16:58:36.789-06:00Stacey...I gave you a blog award. Check out my bl...Stacey...I gave you a blog award. Check out my blog for details! :)Mrs. Chapman's 2nd Grade Classhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09885141816751077141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-6601173430224223112010-02-06T14:11:11.125-06:002010-02-06T14:11:11.125-06:00Sending hugs for the annoying comments.
So happy ...Sending hugs for the annoying comments. <br />So happy happy for you to see and hear baby's heartbeat recently!Joylene Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12422038599757787114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-56131174301545063762010-02-06T12:34:41.756-06:002010-02-06T12:34:41.756-06:00Of course she would be their sister, since you are...Of course she would be their sister, since you are practically their mother. :) Those kids love you more than you could ever know. XOXO<br /><br />I know how frustrating that phone call was for you. I am so sorry you had to deal with that.Conniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10197041154707092570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-4276533707044698712010-02-06T10:14:11.046-06:002010-02-06T10:14:11.046-06:00I didnt battle infertility but many of the same co...I didnt battle infertility but many of the same comments made to you are made to us about our daughters chronic illness and Yes they are insensitive and they hurt. Hang in there-so happy about your good news so far.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-21684495238143975132010-02-06T09:37:50.932-06:002010-02-06T09:37:50.932-06:00I am so sorry about your relative's wife! Tha...I am so sorry about your relative's wife! That is crazy, and I am glad that you feel surrounded by loved ones who ARE sensitive to you and your fears and hopes!!<br /><br />I left you an award on my blog!Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08034231451458994325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-59339876013942580752010-02-06T08:21:04.141-06:002010-02-06T08:21:04.141-06:00People like that annoy me too! Ugh!! I love what...People like that annoy me too! Ugh!! I love what your nephews said...makes me smile.Mrs. Chapman's 2nd Grade Classhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09885141816751077141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-25916782501191645662010-02-06T07:58:48.310-06:002010-02-06T07:58:48.310-06:00Awww, your nephews are sooo sweet! It brought tear...Awww, your nephews are sooo sweet! It brought tears to my eyes.<br /><br />I'm so sorry about your relative. How awful. You're amazing to stay so strong through it all.<br /><br />Love you girl. You're always in my thoughts and prayers. (((HUGS)))twondrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13833003369303408718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-6128264403646072102010-02-06T06:27:11.409-06:002010-02-06T06:27:11.409-06:00Thank you for writing this post. I feel the exact ...Thank you for writing this post. I feel the exact same way. When someone tells me to just be positive this time, it makes me feel like I wasn't last time. Like it was my fault that I lost the baby. I think that our world is saturated with the "positive thinking" movement. The "Se.cret" mentality that if you will it to happen, it will happen. Currently, there are so many people out there doing seminars and making money off of telling people that if they want it bad enough, it will happen for them. I think that this totally negates who God is. He is the ultimate decider of our outcomes. Lately I have been looking for a good comeback to the "just think positive" comments from my friends and family. It drives me insane, and it hurts because of my loss. I want to do it in a way that is not offensive, but I want them to know that it is not okay to say those things to me.<br /><br />Hmmm...you really got me thinking...I pray that this baby is your little miracle.Noellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17217779025743115019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-84679824116807463412010-02-06T01:54:08.391-06:002010-02-06T01:54:08.391-06:00I do understand the frustration. (I had someone t...I do understand the frustration. (I had someone tell me the chronic illness i fight was because i don't trust God enough. So glad she didn't know about our infertility!)<br /><br />I haven't commented much, partly because that is my tendency. Also if i find a large number of comments i tend not to add my voice to the crowd.<br /><br />I think you will understand, too, when i say i'm excited & hopeful for you. With every cell in me i deeply desire that this child continues to grow & bless your family. But i'm also struggling with the sadness that my husband & i will never have this. You know i love you & deeply hope & pray for your blessing, but i may be silent. <br /><br />When we were pregnant, we decided to share our excitement with friends & family because, even tho the outcome was uncertain, if they only heard of it after wards they would never be able to share in our joy. I know each family (& possibly each pregnancy) is different, but that was our choice that time.<br /><br />Continuing to pray & think happy thoughts for you. :)Kathrynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03272307621143522274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-33509892961697985052010-02-06T01:49:08.489-06:002010-02-06T01:49:08.489-06:00Stacey, I hear you and I agree with you. There was...Stacey, I hear you and I agree with you. There was nothing that annoyed me more than having people pooh pooh my very real fears at the possiblity of another miscarriage! I know people mean well but we also need to have our feelings and fears heard.<br />I understand your mixed emotions completley and am here if you need to talk!Sharonhttp://www.mindfulmeandering.co.zanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-1746284665081092862010-02-06T01:44:43.526-06:002010-02-06T01:44:43.526-06:00I totally understand your frustration with your re...I totally understand your frustration with your relative's wife. <br /><br />I relate it to how people tell me - the almost 40 year old single woman who finds herself alone. again.<br /><br />All the; "You're going to find someone." or "So-and-so had a baby when she was 45 (42) (47) (insert number here)."<br /><br />Bah! I'm not talking about anyone else's life - I'm talking about mine! <br />And if every man I've ever dated wasn't the one - how can realistically assume that some guy around the corner might be?!?!? It sounds crazy!! <br /><br />So in my own way - I understand.TRShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09801686710086039781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-62029402350370196182010-02-05T23:00:45.324-06:002010-02-05T23:00:45.324-06:00If positive thoughts produced children then I woul...If positive thoughts produced children then I would have had 20 of them by now!!! Yes, trying to have faith and remain positive are good things, but not essential to God having His will in our lives. Honestly, people just want to find something "helpful" to say. I just wish that it would be "congrats, I am so happy for you" and leave it at that. Or for the bad times "I am sorry. I am praying for you." <br /><br />So cute about your nephews!!! Very sweet, especially for boys. =DJesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16346777903276344723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-58179301640048538242010-02-05T22:14:55.280-06:002010-02-05T22:14:55.280-06:00I'm sorry. Those thoughtless words are usually...I'm sorry. Those thoughtless words are usually about making the giver feel better, and not about anything to do with you. <br /><br />Faith will and does make it easier. Babies don't die because their mum's didn't have enough faith. Neither do they live. <br /><br />Babies die because we live in a fallen world. God's grace gets us through this world until we see them again in the next. <br /><br />Still praying.Mrs.Spithttp://www.mrsspit.canoreply@blogger.com