tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post2026413563119174645..comments2023-09-18T08:28:35.345-05:00Comments on A Longing Fulfilled: MisfitStaceyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04939987028726182741noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-70500057967793174692009-01-03T11:54:00.000-06:002009-01-03T11:54:00.000-06:00Great post. I'm a misfit too. During my lengthy un...Great post. <BR/>I'm a misfit too. During my lengthy unemployment I just felt like a loser. Like a train with no wheels.<BR/><BR/>And ending my relationship when I want nothing more than to be a wife and mother - seems so contrary to logic. <BR/>Add to that the feeling that no one will ever love me that much. I do feel abandoned.<BR/><BR/>Then came all the Christmas Photocards <I>(which I absolutely love!)</I> with all my friends and relatives and their growing children. Yup. I'm an old maid.<BR/><BR/>But Stacey, I want to encourage you to maintain your friendships with your single friends. I am sure they are not sick of hanging out with a married couple.<BR/>As you've heard from me - some of us singles totally identify with your situation. I too am a mother without a child - desperately wanting a family. Your single friends probably understand more than your married with children friends.<BR/><BR/>And quite frankly, I'm sure your single friends long for your company. It's lonely out there.TRShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09801686710086039781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-60944018487517746032008-12-24T14:50:00.000-06:002008-12-24T14:50:00.000-06:00Thanks again, Stacey, for such a beautiful picture...Thanks again, Stacey, for such a beautiful picture of where you are right now. I'm sure we have all felt pretty misfit at some point or another with our bodies that don't work quite right. It is a frustrating experience. But look at the little community you have found on here that loves you just as you are. I know that it not the same as having your babies with you. You have given a voice and words to so many of the feelings we all have had. Thank you for doing that, even when it is just one big ball of frustration.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05300107931864389529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-25350488357595664312008-12-22T21:04:00.000-06:002008-12-22T21:04:00.000-06:00I had almost forgotten all about the little elf th...I had almost forgotten all about the little elf that wanted to be a dentist. Thanks for that reminder! But even more, thanks for sharing how you're feeling. And, I think Connie's right - we'd probably be surprised by how many people can relate to feeling like a misfit. In fact, I'm about to email this post to a friend who was just talking about this very thing. Thanks, Stace!Andihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11755781689608515554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-30043771909322447372008-12-22T18:09:00.000-06:002008-12-22T18:09:00.000-06:00Once again, a post I could've written myself. I h...Once again, a post I could've written myself. I have three close friends locally, all very different from one another. One is married for 9yrs, very much like me. Another is never married, newly dating someone. And yet another is the mother of two, a 7yr old and a 1.5yr old. Each of them seems to fit with a different side of me. There was a time that I felt absolutely out of place. I still feel that way with neighbors (they are either parents or retirees). I have a hard time bonding with people because I feel so out of place sometimes. I'm the square wheeled train. Thankfully there is a place for the misfit toys.Sunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10742596711602267830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-64398146337861598532008-12-22T15:41:00.000-06:002008-12-22T15:41:00.000-06:00I understand. I've not had all the emotional ups ...I understand. I've not had all the emotional ups and downs and struggles with M/C. But I am a broken barren 30 something mommy wanna be. I liked how you spoke of hope and being able to see the positive in the misfit toys!<BR/><BR/>Love,hugs, and prayers from a fellow misfit.Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14426848699869302758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-29588077038861909172008-12-22T15:06:00.000-06:002008-12-22T15:06:00.000-06:00It is amazing to me the way you are able to "speak...It is amazing to me the way you are able to "speak" so clearly to so many people. I think you would probably be amazed by how many people would be able to relate to this post in some way. I know I certainly can. How many times have I wished I could just stay home and not have to face certain situations? (You know the main one I'm talking about.) Isn't it great that we do have a place where we feel comfort and safety? Home...it's a great word. I sure do wish I could give you a BIG HUG right now...just wrap you up in my arms and squeeze you. Can't wait to see you in a few short days. Come on home, Stace! Where the spotted elephants and the swimming birds play...where seldom is heard a discouraging word and the sky is not clouded all day...Conniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10197041154707092570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-53466595463690538742008-12-22T14:20:00.000-06:002008-12-22T14:20:00.000-06:00It is very true that if you weren't going through ...It is very true that if you weren't going through this you wouldn't have met all of these other "misfit" people online and been such an encouragement to them (like you are to me!). I only wish I lived nearby so that we could do things together. I feel like a misfit too. Especially since I don't have a job. All the married women I know are either SAHMs or involved in their careers. And your sentence "I'm a mother without children" perfectly describes me and all of our IF friends!! It's so frustrating, but it really helps to talk about it together.Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07697202003716416028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-57642363786766906192008-12-22T13:59:00.000-06:002008-12-22T13:59:00.000-06:00You've done it again. You always post what everyb...You've done it again. You always post what everybody seems to be feeling. Crazy! I'm stuck in between people who want kids but can't/don't have any and in the world of wanting more kids but can't/don't have them. It's quite odd. I hope you have a very Merry Christmas girl!Teresa & Conniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16856456294417541125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-22576515195941907882008-12-22T13:43:00.000-06:002008-12-22T13:43:00.000-06:00Oh, I have to chime in on this one too. I have bee...Oh, I have to chime in on this one too. I have been a misfit my whole life. No one ever really "gets" me so I never have fit in. You have the opposite story of me. I had a baby in college when everyone was single and having their independence. At that time, everyone who had babies were 8-10 yrs older than me with jobs and money. I was broke, in a young marriage and in school. I didn't fit into any category. Nothing much has changed. I would rather be a misfit than try to fit in with everyone around me. It seems like I would have to compromise a lot of things to be in that position. So smile at your Atlanta misfit neighbor! -Faith (the bird that swims...)<BR/>Come over here and play anytime!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-16645602692745573232008-12-22T08:28:00.000-06:002008-12-22T08:28:00.000-06:00Stacey, it breaks my heart that you are going thro...Stacey, it breaks my heart that you are going through this emotional and physical struggle. I know you are not looking for sympathy but when you hurt, you know your family and friends hurt. I certainly don't mean to give you "empty advice" as if I know what you're going through because I don't. But I just have to say that the first thing I thought of when I read your blog is that the devil is a liar! No matter what we're going through, he wants us all to feel like misfits. We are created in God's perfect image. Why you are going through this, we do not know right now. BUT, God has come that we may have life in abundance, to the full, until it overflows (John 10:10 Amplified). Hang in there. God is a good God and he gives us the desires of our hearts!!!! You are not a misfit. You are right in God's perfect will.<BR/>Love ya!Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05045631253291559833noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897573703113153506.post-35064449307562886032008-12-22T05:53:00.000-06:002008-12-22T05:53:00.000-06:00This is a great post Stacey! I have created a perf...This is a great post Stacey! I have created a perfect worl for myself by surrounding myself with infertile friends, but I worry about what will happen when one of us falls pregnant or has a baby, how will the rest of us feel.<BR/>Its like a tower made of cards, it may look pretty and seem perfect, but one wrong move and it all comes crashing down.<BR/>Somehow I just know we're all going to be ok we just have to find out where we belong.<BR/>(((hugs)))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com